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On Wednesday, June 28th, I was driving to my hometown with my two grandchildren. About two and a half hours into my trip, something hit my windshield and put a small chip in the glass. This caused me to slow down and find an exit to check out the chip. As I was getting over into the far-right lane to take an exit, my “check tire pressure” notification came on, and I determined that one of my tires was going flat. Just as I pulled off onto the shoulder of the highway, just in front of the exit, I heard a pop. The blessing was that I was right in front of the exit sign, Exit 30, Bowling Green. I didn’t have to determine where I was, and no one had to try and find my location; I was praising God. I also contacted a towing company, and the tow truck arrived within 30 minutes. When we arrived at the Tire Discount store, a gentleman named Isaiah waited on me, and I immediately looked up what Isaiah meant, and it means “salvation of the Lord.” One of the other employees asked me, “Have you had a bad day?” I said, “Oh no, sir, this isn’t a bad day; this is a great day. I’m grateful that this happened in the daylight, I’m grateful that my grandchildren and I are safe, and I’m grateful that I was able to get a tow truck within 30 minutes; no, sir, this isn’t a bad day; it’s a great day.” He responded with a smile, “I like your attitude.” After the tow truck driver put my SUV in a parking space and handed me my receipt, I asked him what his name was, and he said, “Steve,” which means “victorious, garland, or crown” because a crown was given to competitors for victors to reward them for their success in a competition. We had to wait about an hour and a half for the tire to be repaired, but God had provided a Cici’s Pizza within a short walking distance with a game room to keep my grandchildren occupied while we were waiting. As I took some time to reflect on that day, what was brought to my remembrance was that the night before, when my grandson was saying his prayers, he asked God to “protect us” while we were traveling and about thirty minutes before we had our blow out, the words, “flat tire” came to my mind, so I prayed for protection over us and over the other cars. The small chip caused me to slow down, which ultimately protected us when the tire blew. Sometimes God will show you something small to protect you from something big, so we must pay attention. I also assumed that it was a rock that hit my windshield, and in the words of one of the deacons from my church, “I am thankful for the rock!” The rock who is my salvation and the rock who not only gives me victory over the adversary but He rewards me with the crown of life! I thank God for the rock! In the Messiah, in Christ, God leads us from place to place in one perpetual victory parade. Through us, he brings knowledge of Christ. Everywhere we go, people breathe in the exquisite fragrance. Because of Christ, we give off a sweet scent rising to God, which is recognized by those on the way of salvation—an aroma redolent with life. 2 Corinthians 2:14 As you go throughout this day, do not discount the small things and the small nudges from the Spirit, they just might save you from being harmed. To God Be The Glory! Share this blog with someone and don't forget to check out our Resources

Watch this inspirational video by Motion Worship. And on that day, you will say, "Give thanks to the LORD; call on His name. Make known His deeds among the peoples; make them remember that His name is exalted." Praise the LORD in song, for He has done glorious things; let this be known throughout the earth. Isaiah 12:4-5 Don't forget to share this Sunday Morning inspiration with someone and check out our Resources.

Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me, and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” Matthew 11:28-30 (MSG) Take some time today to soak your feet in warm or hot water. Pour in some Epsom salt and essential oils that can soothe your tired feet! Help your feet to bust some stress today! .......Just as it is written and forever remains written, “How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news of good things!” Romans 10:15b (AMP) Share this blog with anyone who needs to bust some stress! Don't forget to check out our RESOURCES.

One of the things that get me excited the most is getting a brand NEW Bible! I know that we live in the age of technology, and many people enjoy their electronic Bibles, but I LOVE the feel of the pages of God's Word and the sound of the pages turning. What I love about getting a brand new Bible is that it does not have all of the highlights and the notes in the margins that indicate that I have read a particular passage before; it allows me to read a passage as though I am reading it for the first time. So, I am currently waiting for my brand new Bible to arrive in the mail, and if you have never heard of this one, it's a must-have! It's the Thompson Chain Study Bible. You can look it up and see what it has, but it is my absolute favorite study Bible because it has over 100 000 references related to various topics in the Bible. Whenever I am perusing thru the pages of scripture, it takes me back to when I first discovered that the Bible has ALL the answers. I was just eleven years old, and I was being bullied at school. Every day someone was threatening to beat me up after school. One day while I was feeling discouraged by the bullying, I decided to pick up the oversized coffee table Bible my brother had sent my mom; he was away in the army. When I opened it up, I noticed a section with various topics, like sadness, loneliness, enemies, and joy; I remember sitting for hours thumbing through the pages of that Bible, thinking of various situations and topics that my eleven-year-old mind could come up with, and nothing I thought of was not in the pages of that Bible. That's when I fell in love with the Word! But at the time, I didn't even know or fully understand the Word's power. I didn't fully comprehend that the scriptures were love letters from God's heart to mine. I didn't know that God's voice was spoken from his mouth to my ears. I didn't know that the scriptures were alive and active, sharper than any two-edged sword penetrating to dividing soul, spirit, joint, and marrow (Hebrews 4:12). I was too young to fully comprehend that All scriptures are God-breathed profitable for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness. (2 Timothy 3:16). I didn't know that the Word was a person, not a book's pages. But, I learned at the age of eleven about the Word of God that when I did what it said, there was a strength and a fearlessness that formed in me. So, as I was dealing with the bullies in my school, I was doing what the scripture said: praying for them and asking God to bless them (Matthew 5:43-45). Even though the bullying didn't stop, whenever there was something that gave me strength in knowing that my bullies were treating me poorly, I was asking God to bless them with good things; and so; that was the beginning of me discovering that whenever I had a problem, I could go to the Bible and find out how I should deal with it. As an eleven-year-old, the Bible became the authority for how I dealt with the situations in my life. As I conclude this blog, I want to ask you, when did you enter into your relationship with the Word of God? In what form do you enjoy reading scripture? Electronic, or do you enjoy turning the pages in your Bible? What is one of your favorite books of the Bible? One of my favorites is Colossians, and I am currently reading Job. What does your Bible look like? There is a quote whose author is unknown that says, "A person who carries a Bible that is falling apart isn't falling apart." I love that, don't you? I've put my overused Bibles on my shelf and use them as reference Bibles. Did I tell you I am excited about getting my new Bible? Yep, I know I did, and I believe that what lies within its pages is a fresh Word, just for me. Take some time today to reorient yourself with the pages of scripture as though you are experiencing it for the first time and receive your fresh Word. Please share this blog with others, and don't forget to check out our RESOURCES.

Simon Sinek has written multiple books on leadership. Although his books target the corporate structure, what he shares about leadership can be helpful to the body of Christ. Simon Sinek’s book, Leaders Eat Last, shares a story that was told to him by a Marine Colonel who was in charge of the Officer Candidate School (OCS). The Colonel considered throwing an officer out of OCS because he had “fallen asleep on watch.” Simon was perplexed that falling asleep “in the woods of Virginia” could end the officer’s career. The Colonel explained that trust and Integrity are a matter of life and death in the Marine Corps, and the problem wasn’t that the candidate fell asleep; the problem was that when he was asked about it, he didn’t take responsibility for his actions; he denied it. They asked about it a second time, and he denied it. After showing the candidate proof that could not be refuted, the candidate took responsibility for his actions. He also said that not taking responsibility for his actions immediately diminished trust. If the “would be” candidate were to get a platoon of Marines, they would not be able to trust the information he gave them; it may cause them to hesitate, question his decision-making and hinder his team from coming together. …..in every organization, even in ones where the decisions are not a matter of life and death. When we suspect the leaders of a company are saying things to make themselves or the company look better than they are or to avoid humiliation or accountability, our trust in them falters. It is a natural response. Our brain interprets the information we receive with our survival in mind. If we suspect our leaders are bending the truth to favor their own interests, then our subconscious mind prefers we don’t climb into a foxhole with him. (Sinek p.187)* Integrity is telling the truth and taking immediate responsibility for our actions and even inactions. The Colonel also told the story of another Marine who fell asleep, and when questioned, he was honest and took responsibility immediately. Simon says that the components of trust are honesty, Integrity, and accountability. These are all character traits necessary for trustworthy leaders; to be a true leader and to engender deep trust, a person must start by telling the truth. Although Simon has not claimed himself to be a Christian leader, his name is biblical and in Hebrew means “to hear or to be heard.” This is one of those times when I believe we need to hear and do what Simon says, because he offers us principles that align with the Word of God. There are numerous scriptures that give us wisdom in being a person of Integrity and truthfulness below are a few: ·The integrity of the upright guides them, but the crookedness of the treacherous destroys them. Proverbs 11:3 ·Truthfulness endures forever, but a lying tongue is but for a moment. Proverbs 12:19 Righteous lips are the delight of the king, and he loves him who speaks what is right. Proverbs 16:13 Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and, as shoes for your feet, having put on the readiness given by the gospel of peace. Ephesians 6:14-15. Having purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart. 1 Peter 1:22 I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in truth. 3 John 1:4 As Christian leaders being a person of Integrity and truthfulness is imperative. It’s foundational to our Christian character. We can’t be healthy leaders if we dibble and dabble in deception. Deception destroys trust, relationships, people, organizations, and churches. We must also be mindful that believers are indwelt with the power of the Holy Spirit, who gives us discernment, the ability to know right from wrong and the ability to tell the Truth. The Holy Spirit is the Spirit of Truth, and his role is to guide us into all truth. When we tell the truth, people can discern that it is the truth, and this builds trust. This is why it is essential to practice the spiritual disciplines of prayer, reading scripture, silence, solitude, and being in a community with other believers because they help us to become more sensitive to the leading, the warnings, and the promptings of the Holy Spirit; they help us to become more discerning in what’s true and what is deception. Jesus tells us in Matthew 24:4 to “Watch out that no one deceives you.” I believe this doesn’t just include other people; as Christian leaders, we must be careful not to deceive ourselves. This is also why as leaders, we need Nathans (2 Samuel 7:2, 1 Chronicles 17:1. in our lives who are wise advisors (Prov. 11:14) and mental health professionals to help us see our blind spots. Simon says that the Colonel shared with him that Integrity and truthfulness are a matter of life and death as a Marine because when a leader gives information, we need to know that when they say something, good or bad, it is the truth. If another Marine can’t trust what is said, then they can’t trust them with their lives when they are out in the field. As Christian leaders, we, too, are in a battle. We are on a battlefield fighting for the souls of the unsaved and for the spiritual maturity of the saved. When we make Integrity and truthfulness the bedrock of our character, we are used by the power of the Holy Spirit to save lives. Leadership requires that we are purveyors of information. We are proclaiming the Good News that leads to life! There is no greater salvation than eternal life. If we practice deception, we could cause our faith to become unattractive, and then we become the justification for why someone says, “I do not believe in Christ because that faith doesn’t work.” Or we could cause people to leave the institutional church, which disconnects them from a community that helps them to grow into spiritually mature believers or worse, they could walk away from God. As leaders, we must take being leaders of Integrity and truthfulness seriously because it is a matter of life and death for ourselves and for those we lead. Choose life! Choose Integrity; choose honesty! Do not let kindness and truth leave you; Bind them around your neck, Write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good repute In the sight of God and man. Proverbs 3:3 Don't forget to share this blog with others and our Resources - Video and Books Page

And don't allow yourselves to be weary in planting good seeds, for the season of reaping the wonderful harvest you've planted is coming! Take advantage of every opportunity to be a blessing to others, especially to our brothers and sisters in the family of faith! Galatians 6:9-10 (TPT) One of the most obvious results of living in gratitude is the feeling of belonging, of being welcome, of hearing the Lord say, "Come to me" (Mt 11:28). When we feel weary, it's fine to stop working, as Mary did, and sit at the feet of Jesus. In chiding Martha, Jesus seems to be telling us that work without worship never bears lasting fruit. What if we are so busy, ostensibly doing the Father's business, that we miss what the Master himself wants to tell us? We do not have to make an appointment to see him. He is with us all the time, befriending us when we feel lonely and showing us how to be faithful when we are tempted to go astray. It is foolish to think that we must first attempt on our own to solve every problem and only then ask for his help. In so doing, we put the cart of self-perfection before the horse of Christ's unfolding plan of salvation. In the Lord's presence, there is no need for us to hide our vulnerability under the cover of phony airs of self-sufficiency. The Father wants to be our partner, provided we agree not to be the purveyor of an already set agenda. Muto, Susan. Gratefulness (p. 31). Ave Maria Press. Kindle Edition. Take a pause and set a timer for ten min. to breathe Inhale and exhale Notice any tension or pain in your body. Ask the Lord to relax you or to heal that area. Notice your thoughts.... Release all that will distract you by simply saying silently or out loud "Lord, I releaseto you." When the ten min. is up, sit silently until you are fully present at this moment. You can also conclude this time by praying the Model Prayer found in Matthew 6:9-13 Then........ Read the scripture and the quote by Dr. Susan Muto, and spend some time journaling and reflecting on the following questions: 1. In what area of your life have you become weary in planting good seeds? 2. In what ways are you a blessing to others as you await the seeds that you have planted to bring in a harvest? 3. How can you bless those who are a part of the family of faith? 4. Read the quote by Dr. Muto; what word or phrase resonates with you in this season of your life? 5. Conclude by writing a prayer of response to the Lord. Don't forget to share this blog with someone and check out our RESOURCES.

I just realized yesterday that it had been 30 days since I turned in my resignation. I have been asked what is next for me. My next step is to return to my previous Leadership Coaching and Church Growth Consulting assignment. Previously I was focused primarily on helping church leaders to create disciple-making processes. I am a system and a process thinker. However, God reminded me why I decided to get a Masters's Degree in Christian Leadership; I wanted to teach leaders how to be healthy leaders. A friend recently asked me if I had considered getting my Ph.D. because of my love for writing. My response was an immediate "No." Because of all the research required. But then, as I pondered the question, I thought, "Well, of course, I would if a school gave me a FULL scholarship where I had to pay zero dollars; haha. I love to learn and share what I know with others so that I can empower them to be who God created them to be. If it were ever possible for me to get my Ph.D. without paying tuition, books, fees, etc., then yes! Sign me up! The Next Step for me is simple. Leadership Coaching and Church Growth Consulting with emphasis on guiding congregations in preventing toxic leadership in the church and helping congregations to overcome a toxic church environment. My goal is to offer retreats and workshops, speak at events, teach what I have learned, and continue to learn about creating a church culture where people are safe from the abuse of power by the leaders and toxic church environments. I am praying and listening to God's guidance with each step. And when He opens doors, I will walk thru them. My current goal is to write 90 blog posts in 90 days, and so far, I am on schedule. I do this because writing and helping others is one of my forms of therapy. Thanks for taking the time to read my blog. If you are interested in Leadership Coaching and/or Church Growth Consulting: My current Leadership Coaching rate is based on six one-hour sessions, $750 My Church Growth Consulting fee is based on a six-month retainer and determined based on the congregation's needs. The retainer can be renewed every six months. Subscribe today so you will get more information about my services and so that you will be one of the first to know when my schedule opens up to receive new clients. If you are interested in Leadership Coaching, Church Growth Consulting or you would like for me to come and speak or offer a workshop at your church, you can email me at: ignitethechurch@outlook.com Don't forget to check out the RESOURCES page.

Watch this inspirational video by Steven Furtick They will fight you, but they will fail. For I am with you, and I will take care of you. I, the LORD, have spoken!” Jeremiah 1:19

I have always had the dream of using my gifts in the local church. One of my primary reasons for going to seminary was that I would take what I learned back to a local church and help to nurture and develop believers to become more spiritually mature. I had waited half my life to serve in a local church where my gifts were accepted (I am 55). Then it happened. I went to a church's website to find the time of services and discovered a career tab, that revealed my dream "job". My eyes watered; that "job" description was written just for me. I applied. I got the "job," and within the first ninety days, I had preached a sermon, taught Bible Study (people started returning), led a workshop for teachers (people wanted more), and met some of the most loving congregants that I had ever met in a church. I received positive responses for everything I did. To God Be the Glory! I was tearing up or crying every day because of the pure joy of serving God's people and the love and acceptance I had experienced. However, my tears of joy were flowing parallel to my tears of sadness because I had discovered that although the church where I served had a charge to love God and to love people, there was a culture that did not make this a priority. This was confirmed on Sunday, April 2, 2023, when I was sharing with a close friend, who is a licensed mental health professional, and prayer warrior/intercessor, about some of the experiences I was having at work, and she responded, "You know that what you are describing is a toxic work environment right? Don't underestimate the effects of a toxic work environment on your mental health." On April 7th, 2023, Good Friday, I fell trying to step over a doggie gate. I broke my femur and had to have emergency surgery which resulted in a complete left hip replacement. Four weeks after my surgery, it became even more evident that the culture was conflicting with my values of empathy, compassion, and love. I had suspected that I was working in a corporate culture and not a ministry culture, and it became more and more evident. I had lost all trust and started experiencing the physiological reaction of fight or flight whenever I had to engage with certain people. It wasn't about a fear of someone causing me physical harm; it was the fear of being provoked for the purpose of causing me to respond in what would cause me to be perceived as a person who was difficult to work with or someone who was not who I had presented myself to be. I felt they were trying to create evidence and create a narrative that would present me in a negative way. I felt they wanted me to quit. I did not want to get ensnared by their trap. I didn't feel that I had an advocate. On May 23, 2023, I went to my doctor about it; my blood pressure was 133/88; I had not had any issues with high blood pressure prior to working on this job. After praying, having a discussion with my doctor, seeing a mental health professional, and talking with my leadership coach and some wise friends, I discerned that I needed to resign to preserve my mental health so that my physical health would not be hindered. After submitting a work-from-home plan on May 19th and it getting approved, I began working from home on May 22, 2023 however, I was still led to resign on May 24, 2023. When I texted my close friend, the mental health professional, prayer warrior, and intercessor, that I resigned, her text back to me was, "I am both sorry about how it ended, but also glad that it ended. Your health was literally at stake". Confirmation. My tears of joy had turned into tears from a broken heart. My dream had been deferred. Some may think, "Well, Joycelyn, you didn't need your job, so you could resign." The truth is, that I did need my job, but I need my mental and my physical health more, so I had to resign and trust God to provide during this season when I am not working. He can do it! If you are someone who has found yourself working in ministry, but the culture where you work is stressful. I pray that you will have the courage to speak up for yourself. If you fear retaliation, then I pray you have the courage to resign. It is not worth your mental and physical health. Stressful work environments cause mental health problems and physical illness. Do not forget to check out the Resource page and the Home page.

Take some time to pack some food in a basket with your favorite foods, drink, and dessert. Invite someone to go with you to one of your favorite parks or a place where you can take a blanket and partake in some delicious foods outside while you enjoy nature and take in some sun. Share this blog with anyone who needs to bust some stress! Don't forget to check out the RESOURCE page.

I love to create and facilitate retreats, and I love to take retreats. These past few months have been formative; breaking my femur, getting a left hip replacement, and resigning from what I thought was my "dream job." These are the times when I need a retreat. Are you in a season where you need to pause with the Lord? I created a retreat for myself and will share it with you. Click on the link below for a personal retreat plan where you can take a whole day to spend time with the Lord. You can pause alone, or you can gather a group of your friends to get together and enter into a time of quiet and reflection, listening to what God has to say to each of you in this season. Don't forget to check out our RESOURCES. Check out the book titles and the videos.

It takes a lot of courage to leave a toxic church environment. Some may think it's an easy decision, whether it's your job or your church membership because leaving a place where you are devalued and disempowered makes sense. It may be easier to leave a corporate job, but the mental, emotional, and spiritual warfare you experience is overwhelming when it's the church. We wrestle with whether or not our mistreatment is just the "cross" we are called to bear. We don't want to believe that the people who are called to care for our souls are the ones who are throwing the arrows that are wounding our souls. We try to make sense of what doesn't make sense. We wonder if our leaving makes us look like we lack faith. Until we actually leave, we struggle every day with whether or not we ought to persevere or flee. I have even heard stories where people who were the victims of toxic church environments are made to feel like they are the ones who were wrong. They become the accused and are ousted, criticized, and even demonized by those in leadership and people they've known for years, all because they chose to be more loyal to God than a leader. Stephen Arterburn says in his book, Experiencing Healing Over Painful Spiritual Abuse, "In a toxic faith system, loyalty is equated with blind faith and complete agreement with the leader." Challenging a toxic system that is not congruent with the Word of God is often equated with being disloyal to the leader. This wounds us. Some people become more focused on keeping the toxicity a secret than on exposing it so that their church can be a healthy church where people can grow into spiritual maturity. Toxicity breeds immature believers. Those longing for spiritual maturity usually challenge the toxic system and ultimately have to leave, and leaving our home church wounds our very souls. Once we leave, we must deal with our mental, emotional, and spiritual wounds. We even experience the stages of grief because we are grieving the loss of friends, maybe the loss of a job, opportunities to serve God in a particular way, and our perception of certain people. These are wounds that require us to heal. I thought I would share some of the things I am doing to help me to heal. Praying & Reading Scripture- There is no way I could survive this without God's Word and prayer. At the beginning of each year, I always select a scripture that will carry me through the year. I allow that scripture to be my guide for the year. My scripture for the year is Psalm 144. I am grateful that I have a word of encouragement and hope given to me on Jan. 1, 2023. What scripture(s) can be your healing balm as you heal from your experiences in your toxic church environment? Writing- Writing is my therapy. It's how I process the experiences in my life. It's a way for me to allow God to make something beautiful out of the ashes of my life. 2 Corinthians 1:4 says, "God comforts us in our troubles so that we can comfort others in their troubles." I write because I want those with similar experiences to be comforted, inspired, and empowered. I choose to become a resource for others. I also love to journal. Sharing My Story- The principalities and powers (Eph. 6:12) want us to be afraid to share our story. There are many fears like no one will believe us (even after sharing proof) or that they will believe us but not hold those responsible accountable, and that they will launch personal attacks. When all of these fears come against me, I am reminded that the God I serve is a God of justice, that one day, all things will be made right, and that all things are working for my good. (Rom. 8:28). Seeing a Mental Health Professional- Do not underestimate a toxic environment's impact on your mental health. Make an appointment to see a mental health professional. It will do your mind and your soul good. Talk to Trusted Friends- I have friends I can talk to about my experiences and other things; sometimes, I rehash experiences, but they allow me to "get it out." Find another place to Worship- It's okay to decide not to return to that church if it's your place of worship. Worshipping in the place where you have been wounded may not be healthy for you. You will need to discern this. Setting Boundaries- I decided, just this past week, that I will need to refrain from allowing people to bring me certain types of information related to my church. This keeps the person and me safe from being used to bait or hurt me; it keeps me mentally, emotionally, and spiritually safe. Do something you enjoy at least once a day- Be intentional about doing the things you enjoy. Take some time, write down 20 things you enjoy, and prioritize doing something you enjoy each day. This could include nature walks, certain foods, drinks, recreational activities, a good book, etc.; the list could go on and on! My prayer is that this blog will be something that contributes to your time of healing. One thing I know for sure, this too shall pass, and one day, we will be healed. We will reflect on this time in our lives and say, "I have seen you in your sanctuary and gazed upon your power and glory. Your unfailing love is better than life itself; how I praise you! I will praise you as long as I live, lifting up my hands to you in prayer. You satisfy me more than the richest feast. I will praise you with songs of joy!" Psalm 63:2-5 Do not forget to check out our Resources; we have books and videos.